Your Brain On Heartbreak
Your brain on heartbreak is a situation where there is crushing grief, anguish or distress experienced when a lover turns against a relationship. They say that breaking up is hard to do, and I would agree. Losing someone that you love can be one of the most painful experiences you go through in life. While nothing will take the immediate pain away, there are some things you can do to make yourself feel better and start on the road to an amazing recovery. Following are 9 ways to fix your brain on heartbreak.
Accept the loss
The solution that many have after experiencing a loss is to pretend that it didn’t happen. We want to deny that what was taken from us will never be ours again. “Certainly, we will get back together, right?” “I know he still loves me.” “She just needs a break.” “My lover will realize I am the best thing out there.”
While these statements may make you feel better for the moment, they certainly do not help you move past the pain and move forward in your life.
When we lose the love of another, it is best to accept that the loss has taken place and focus on how we can learn, grow, and move forward into a happier, more productive place. Futile attempts to hold on to the love will only prolong the agony of the heartbreak.
Be Kind To Yourself
It is very easy after a break up to beat yourself up. “If only I had done this… or that…shoulda, woulda, coulda, we would still be together.” The one left behind in the relationship often takes the blame and responsibility for the sorrow filled ending.
You begin to think you were not attractive enough, smart enough or fun enough to be around. You begin to replay all the times in your mind that you were in a bad mood or said things that wish you had not said. The truth is if your relationship comes to an end – it is because it is supposed to. Did you catch that?…. It was supposed to! It goes back to that old cliche, “When one door closes, another one opens.” So, LET THEM WALK! You must remember that and get back to focusing on all of the wonderful characteristics that make you, you, and THAT will make you a better person and partner next time!
Rest, Sleep, Relax, Take It Easy
When your brain is on heartbreak you experience a breakdown and every cell in your body knows it! Did you realize that the stress from a break up can cause you to be forgetful and physically disoriented? It can cause you to feel fatigued and develop headaches and stomach aches. Losing love can be a major source of anxiety.
When you are experiencing a heartbreak, take a break get some rest, relax, breathe deeply and know that the heart, body, and mind have the incredible ability to heal naturally with a little care from you.
Now that you have taken time to rest, the next step is to get moving! Exercise can be a wonderful way to increase the level of serotonin with your brain on heartbreak. This “feel good” chemical is the body’s normal way of growing energy and hormones that make you feel happier.
You can go for a walk, go running, take an exercise class at the gym, practice yoga or some other activities that you enjoy. Why not spend time walking and talking with a friend? What better therapy is there than that?
Adopt a dog from your local animal shelter if you don’t already have one. They know all about love-loss and they make excellent exercise companions!
Heartbreak 911 – Call on Friends and Family
Nothing heals a broken heart better than receiving love and support from your close friends and family members. These people are in your life because they care about you, and they see the value in you. They are ‘truly’ your life support. Just talking with a close friend has been proven to lower blood pressure and put the mind at ease. Your friends will be happy to take you out, make you laugh and forget all about “what’s his/her name.”
Write in a Journal
Writing down your feelings is the best way to get them out of your mind. By transcribing them onto a piece of paper, you will find that the thoughts no longer take up space in your head or your heart.
Write down all the things that you learned from the relationship. What are some things that you enjoyed about him/her, things that you did not like and stuff you learned about yourself? How will you change or stay the same in your next relationship?
Have Some Fun
So often when people get into relationships they stop doing the things that they enjoyed when they were single. What have you stopped doing?
Did you formerly go out dancing more often? Your significant other hated motorcycles so you stopped riding yours? Did you like to go to movies and she didn’t? Take a trip that you have always wanted to take.
The worse thing you can do is stay home and host your own pity party with your brain on heartbreak.
Instead, go out and party doing the things that you enjoy in life. Even if you don’t feel like it get away! Once you get out it will be in no time before a smile returns to your face and you will realize that life goes on!
Get Touch Therapy
The healing benefits of touch are numerous. Massage therapy is one way to receive touch, and it helps with everything from decreasing anxiety, helping you sleep better, reducing fatigue to giving you greater energy and a sense of peace.
Giving and receiving hugs is another way to incorporate the power of touch into your life. Did you know that it is a proven fact that hugging a friend can lower your blood pressure and heart rate???
Reach out and ‘touch’ someone (properly), it just might make you both feel good!
Practice Having Faith
With our brain on heartbreak, it’s easy to think that we will never find love again. We wallow in self-pity and begin to believe that our life will be full of empty, lonely days. Not true!
Listen, the only real way to fix your mind and heart is by following the tips mentioned above or allowing time to heal and maybe rekindling the love with your Ex after working out your issues.