Most Christians believe in healthy marriages that are ordained by God. For this to happen therefore, proper Christian Dating values should be followed. These values are contrary to the way the world perceives dating, rather than the world’s popular method of ‘trial and error’, Christian dating is about choosing the person that was created for you by God. It’s not about dating because everyone else is doing it, it’s about dating for a purpose. Dating at the right time and within the will of God while Dating for companionship, personal development, friendship, and love.
Christian Dating Advice
As a Christian, first you ought to identify the purpose of the relationship and establish whether the person you have chosen is the right one for you. They should be believers just like you. The proper way to do this is by seeking God in prayer first and asking for His guidance. Once you are clear that you’ve got the right person its okay to go ahead and date. Spending time with the that person is crucial because it helps you get to know them well, bond, and establish whether you share the same values. At this time, it’s also important to endeavor to become best of friends first and explore the friendship and the activities you enjoy doing together.
Christian dating does not include sexual activities, couples should wait until they are married to indulge in sex within the protection of marriage (“the marriage bed is honorable and undefiled”). This fact is challenging because it’s natural to want to hold, touch, kiss and before you know it you might find yourself having per-marital sex which is against God’s word. When you “sow to the flesh then of the flesh you reap corruption” (the relationship begins to deteriorate before it starts). To avoid this, dating couples should be wise to avoid hanging out in private places like in a house with just the two of you, or even basically being together in a tempting environment. Ensure you spend time together in public places and try to avoid hanging out late in the night.
Honesty, Unconditional love, fidelity and happiness are the true values of a healthy Christian dating relationship. Also read 1 Corinthians 13:1-7 for more on what love is and be inspired.
When all is said and done, It’s important to keep a support system. Find Christian friends who share the same values as you. they come in handy in times of need. Also a mentor is crucial. Find a person like a Pastor or an experienced Believer who can advise you on what to do when you face challenges as you navigate through this world of dating. The above guidelines will help you enjoy a successful Christian dating experience
