Many couples enter therapy with a shared commitment to improve their relationship. For these couples, therapy focuses on addressing issues, strengthening the connection and working collaboratively for positive change. But what if you arrive for therapy and feel like you’re already mentally packing your bags, while your partner wants to work together to unpack them?…
Remember MTV, and the hours of time spent in front of the television (the one in my memory still had knobs, no remote) waiting to catch that one music video you wanted to see? The VJs and their amazing style, the game shows that we may or may not have been allowed to watch, the…
He comes home from work exhausted again. After yet another frustrating meeting that could have been covered in an email, a tense conversation with a co-worker about the state of the break room refrigerator, and predictably awful traffic on the way home, he crashes onto the living room sofa. He lets out a deep breath…
Many couples experience conflict around how they raise and interact with their children. Discipline, expectations, and chores are some of the potential problem areas. If you think about it, it makes sense. You are both coming from unique childhood and family of origin experiences. You had different experiences growing up, and you may have different…
“We are in a sexless marriage. I change for bed in the walk-in closet while he changes in the bathroom. We haven’t seen each other naked for over twenty years. But we don’t want to give up – you are our last chance – can you help us?” I met Norm and Sherry two years…
Understand Your Role As a Parent Recently, I sat on the beach watching my son surf. As I relaxed, I began to observe the pattern of the waves in comparison to my son’s ability or desire to catch them. I noticed the many other people out in the water, and their presence in comparison to…
What do you miss the most about falling in love? I’ve asked tens of thousands of couples that question during my free live Passion Masterclass and here is what they say “I miss the butterflies, the excitement I felt when the phone rang, the text buzzed or they rang the doorbell!” “I miss the effort…
The end of summer and back to school season brings with it a series of mixed emotions. Kids and parents alike are feeling a sense of sadness that the freedom of summer is over and excitement and nervousness for the start of the new school year. Tips for a smooth transition It can be a…
How Stress Shows Up in Relationships Even happy couples fight – and sometimes they do it in a way that doesn’t align with their integrity or intentions. Yelling, stomping out of the room, or acting like a “stone wall” during upsetting conversations can occur with even the most loving couples. Often, after these upsetting events,…
I remember walking into the cafeteria of my new school, and it was like someone punched me in the stomach. I was in sixth grade. My family had just moved from Virginia to Ohio. At first, I attended the local Catholic school. Within the first two months, I was begging my parents to go to the…
