There are many common experiences that you may have learning Gottman Method Therapy. I’d like to share some insights that hopefully will be helpful to you while learning this incredibly powerful way of working with couples. Level 1 Training – Gottman Method Couples Therapy For most of us, Level 1 Training is our introduction to…
In the past few years, many couples therapists have begun to offer multiple modalities ranging fromweekly 1-2 hours of couples therapy, “intensive” or “marathon” couples therapy, and weekend couples retreats. We’ll explore the benefits of each type and the differences between them. Weekly Couples Therapy This modality is best suited for individual therapy and for…
Small things often. If you follow The Gottman Institute, you’ve heard this and hopefully committed it to memory. Although grand gestures are nice, the particles of your day-to-day interactions maintain positive feelings and regard for the ones you love. The Gottmans taught us that bids are the building blocks of healthy relationships. They are those…
It’s easy to listen to your partner when you’re happy with each other. When trust is strong, even criticism doesn’t hurt. It’s not as easy when you are in conflict. Your wonderful partner is now being stubborn, wrong, or unfair—sometimes all three. Frustration grows, then anger, at hearing yet one more demand from your not-so-wonderful-after-all…
All couples have conflict. In fact, healthy individuals use their disagreements to learn more about each other. That said, there is a tipping point where bickering and criticism can take over and sink your relationship. So, how do you know how much is too much? Watch this video of Dr. John Gottman explaining the ratio…
Boundaries are important for the health of your relationships. But for so long, women have been taught saying no, setting limits, or declining a request is impolite or even mean. They fear that their relationships will suffer if they do not make everyone around them happy or at least try. Yet, I have gained more…
National Domestic Violence Hotline This article is not intended to address situations of abuse. If you’re in an abusive relationship, you are not alone. Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1−800−799−7233 or TTY 1−800−787−3224. You can also visit the website. Sam and Jack (not their real names), both in their late forties and married for…
This article originally was published by the Child Mind Institute Most young children are aware of death, even if they don’t understand it. Death is a common theme in cartoons and television, and some of your child’s friends may have already lost a loved one. But experiencing grief firsthand is a different and often confusing process…
Maybe your attraction to women came as a surprise to you. You might have suddenly started having feelings for a friend. Perhaps a woman expressed attraction to you, and you were surprised to find yourself feeling open. Or maybe you’ve known about your feelings for a long time, but there were inner or outer barriers…
Being Certified Gottman Therapists (and a gay couple) who specialize in gay couples therapy, we want to highlight just how important it is that the LGBTQ community and its allies come together and stand proud in celebration this June. Alapaki Yee and Salvatore Garanzini Among the many reasons Pride matters, we believe one of the…
