Here is my speed tour through the bottom floors of the Sound Relationship House. Continuously learn who your partner is. Show them that you know who they are. Tell them, often and with specificity, why you like and appreciate them. To make a relationship thrive, you need to be continuously working through these levels. I…
Dr. John Gottman conceptualized relationships by creating The Sound Relationship House, which is a blueprint to romantic relationships. The first three levels of the house are called the friendship system. They are the foundation of the house and the relationship. Love Maps Most couples start strong in this area. In the beginning, they spend hours…
“My sobriety isn’t a limitation. Sobriety isn’t even a ‘have to’—it’s a superpower.” Brené Brown I couldn’t agree more. I’m not an addiction specialist nor am I here to judge. I’m a registered psychotherapist, conscious parent, and someone who’s benefited tremendously from sharing a substance-free relationship for several years. For some, it’s a slippery slope…
Excerpted from I WANT THIS TO WORK: An Inclusive Guide to Navigating the Most Difficult Relationship Issues We Face in the Modern Age by Elizabeth Earnshaw, LMFT, CGT. Sounds True, November 2021. Reprinted with permission. Love honors me, and love honors you. From “I Want This to Work” Now, to explore the foundation of love,…
As a couple, did you know that you’re not required to do nice things for each other? Did you know you don’t have to want to do those things? It’s true. That’s why anything you or your partner do for each other is a gift. While many of my clients give me the side-eye when…
“The things I do for the family are barely noticed, but I’m quickly called out for every slip-up. Nothing I do seems good enough.” “Spending time together seems to be at the very bottom of the priority list. I know our lives are jam-packed, but sometimes I feel so alone.” I heard these comments from…
There is a lip when it comes to having sexual intercourse and making love. Having sex can happen to anybody, but you need to have a different kind of relationship in order to make love to each other. Making love is a very intimate process as compared to having sex where no intimacy is required,…
It’s not always easy to find love. We’ve all been there. You’re single, you’re lonely, and you can’t find love anywhere! Sometimes, it feels like everyone else has already found someone and you’re still waiting for your chance at happiness. If this sounds like you, then it might be time to take a good hard…
How long does it take to fall in love with someone? It turns out the answer is complicated. Many factors influence a person’s ability to love. This includes the type of relationship they want and how they view their past relationships and current feelings. Some people can fall in love faster while others need more…
There are several things that you can look for to determine if an attraction is present. Attraction is something that is natural and there are various ways for this to be detected if it is present. It can also be mutual and it is best when this happens. There are many things that can be…
