When you begin a new romantic relationship, it is easy to show your partner how you feel about him or her.
It’s natural and exciting to go out of your way to show how much you care.
But after the dating phase ends, and you have a few years of marriage under your belts, couples can get into a routine in which one (or even both) partners feel like they are being taken for granted.
You neglect to go out of your way to let your husband know what he means to you and how proud you are that he is by your side.
If you want to rekindle the magic of those early days with your husband, use a little creativity to show him how much you love him.
Let’s go over some of the best ways to show your love to your husband and put the spark back into your marriage.
How To Demonstrate Love For Your Husband For Others to See
Showcasing your love for your husband for the world to see amplifies your connection.
Here are a few ways to express that affection:
Physical Affection: Holding his hand, exchanging glances, or a simple touch can speak volumes about your bond.
Public Acknowledgement: Praising his achievements, backing him up during conversations, or simply showing your admiration for him publicly helps build your connection.
Social Media Shoutouts: Posting your favorite moments, appreciative notes, or simple words of love on social media can let the world know how much he means to you.
But remember, it’s essential to understand and respect his comfort zone regarding public displays of affection.
Consistent, small acts of love go a long way.
Engage with him, listen to his day, share in his interests, be there for him during challenges, and be his cheerleader.
Love isn’t about grand gestures; it’s about consistent, everyday acts of kindness, respect, and understanding.
It’s about celebrating him and your relationship with him, always respecting his individuality and personal boundaries.
Loving Gestures
Small gestures can make a big difference, and they don’t have to cost a fortune.
Here are some ways to show your husband that you care.
1. Suggest going for a walk in the evening.
Take some time away from your phones and email and reconnect with each other. You can talk about simple things like your day, or you can take this opportunity to have some deeper conversations.
2. Set up a camping trip in your backyard.
You don’t have to travel far to enjoy the great outdoors. Before your husband gets home for the day, set up a tent, arrange your cozy sleeping bags, and grab a bottle of wine to make a night of it.
3. Make a video of your wedding night.
Go through all of the video footage that you have from your wedding night and make a montage. This will help him reminisce with you about that special night to rekindle those magical feelings.
4. Plan a surprise party.
Reach out to his family to plan a surprise party for him. It doesn’t necessarily have to be his birthday — maybe there’s another special occasion coming up that you could celebrate like a job promotion or an anniversary.
5. Relive your first date.
Take him back to the place you first went for a date and try to recreate the evening. Talk about everything you remember from that night, and tell each other what you were really thinking during the date.
6. Get him something he has been wanting for a while.
Is there something specific that your husband has wanted for a while but hasn’t gotten around to buying? Buy it for him to show him that you’re paying attention to his wants and needs, and you care enough to take the time to fulfill those for him.
7. Be consciously present.
Make sure to actively listen when he speaks and be consciously present in the moment with your husband. Make an effort to put down your phone and look away from your computer or the TV when your husband speaks to you.
8. Ask questions.
Don’t just stop at yes/no questions. People love talking about themselves, your husband included. Ask “why” questions, and even say things like “Tell me more about that.” This will show your husband that you are interested in his life outside of the family.
9. Make his favorite meal.
Don’t wait for a special occasion — just surprise him one night with his favorite meal for dinner. Make enough so he can bring leftovers to work the next day for lunch.
10. Arrange for him to do something fun on the weekend.
Does your husband like to golf or do any other sports? Arrange for him to have a tee time on the weekend or something else that caters to his interests or hobbies.
11. Ask him what he needs.
Ask him what one thing could change about his life that would make it more satisfying and see what you can do to make it happen.
12. Make a card.
Make your husband a card from scratch and write in it all of the fun memories you have had together and a sentiment of your love for him.
13. Encourage him to go out with his friends.
Doing this will show your husband that you want him to be able to have fun outside of the home without always being with the family. Everyone needs some time with friends, so make sure that your husband knows that you want him to take opportunities to go out.
14. Watch his movie choice.
Even if you both know you won’t like it, he will appreciate your taking the time to watch it with him. You can show him even more love by getting into the movie and asking questions or making positive comments.
15. Surprise him with something small.
Go get his car washed and fill up the tank. This loving gesture will not only show that you care, it will also help save him time and he will get to enjoy having a clean car.
16. Make a bucket list with him.
Think of all of the fun things you can do together around your city or short trips you could take. Talk about his dreams for the long term that you can accomplish together.
17. Get him a gift card.
Go to his favorite spot for lunch and buy a gift card. Put it in his wallet when he isn’t looking so he can discover it at work one day when he is trying to figure out what to do for lunch.
18. Hide notes around the house.
Write down the things that you love about him on sticky notes and put them around the house in places where he will find them.
19. Hold his hand.
Do this unexpectedly at the grocery store or if you are just driving in the car. Small, physical gestures will communicate your love for your husband.
Everyone likes to feel needed. Let your husband know that you appreciate his abilities by asking him for his help. Be sure to let him know how much you appreciate him.
21. Give him a time cushion after work.
Many men need a few minutes when they get home from work to unwind. Allow him to have some space and a bit of quiet time before beginning his family time. If you are both working outside the home, take turns doing this.
22. Anticipate his needs.
Small acts of kindness will relay loving messages to your husband. Discover what his needs are and make them a priority.
I Love My Husband
Sometimes, the best way to show your love is through words. This can include quotes that really speak to how you feel or your own loving words. Here are some quotes and phrases you can tell your husband to show him how you feel.
23. “Let us always meet each other with a smile, for the smile is the beginning of love.” — Mother Teresa
This quote is one that will incite the physical action of a smile between you and your husband every time you see each other. It will provide motivation to get that spark back.
24. “The most important thing in the world is family and love.” — John Wooden
Leaving a note with this quote somewhere that he will find it will show your husband that you put your family and your love for each other at the top of your priority list.
25. “Love is when the other person’s happiness is more important than your own.” — H. Jackson Brown, Jr.
Having your husband read this quote will illustrate the fact that you do put his feelings ahead of your own and that is a true act of love.
26. “A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.” — Mignon McLaughlin
Let your husband know that you are still falling in love with him, even after all these years have gone by.
27. Make up your own quote.
You can always think of some thoughtful phrases about love and what it means to you and write them down for him.
Heart Touching Love Messages for Husband
In addition to quotes and phrases about love, you can show your husband how you feel about him by writing a message directly to him. Here are some examples of these types of messages to help get you started.
28. It takes a lot of luck to find someone like you for a husband. I feel blessed and thankful every moment for this gift. I will love you until the day I die, no matter what life brings us.
29. The more years that go by, the more I fall in love with you. You have a beautiful heart that I promise to love for eternity.
30. Thank you for always being there for me. I have never known love with such intensity. You are the best husband in this world and I love you with all my heart.
31. Every time I look at you, I think to myself, ‘There is no way I could have done better.’ You are perfect for me, and I love you.
32. If I had to change everything in my life except for one thing, it would be that I met and fell in love with you.
33. The most precious memories I have are all with you. I love you.
34. On days such as this, I feel lost because you are so far away from me. I miss you and I love you immensely.
Ask the Important Questions
To show your husband that you love him, you have to find out his needs. Once you know what he needs to live a fulfilling life, you can begin to address them. Start with some of the following questions.
35. What can I do to help you?
This can be when he is busy or even when he is not. Just let him know that you’re available to help.
36. What can I do to make your life easier?
Showing that you want to lessen your husband’s burden will allow him to see how much you care for him.
37. How can I be a better wife?
This is a direct question that begs for a direct answer. Having your husband know that you want to be the best wife for him will show him that you love him.
38. How are you doing today?
Take the time to look your husband directly in the eye and ask how he is doing. If you sense that there’s something negative going on, gently touch him and say, “I really want to know how you’re doing.”
39. What is important to you?
When your husband is making a difficult decision, ask him this question. To understand your husband’s thoughts and needs, it’s critical to know the things that are important to him. Asking this question invites him to stop and think while considering his values.
40. How can I encourage you?
This is a great question if you know your husband is going through a hard or frustrating time. Find out what he needs in order to feel supported, and do whatever that is as much as you can.
41. What goals should we set for ourselves as a couple?
This should lead to a serious discussion and it should happen at least a few times a year. Consider your goals for your careers, your family, your financial situation, your friendships, and your marriage. This will show your husband that you are serious about improving your future together.
42. Are you happy with the direction of our marriage?
This will help you review how things have been going between the two of you and determine any corrections you need to make so that your relationship remains healthy and fulfilling.
43. What are you most afraid of right now?
This is an uncommon question, but if you know your husband’s answer and are open to talking about these worries, you will be able to ease his pain.
44. When are you the happiest?
For much of our lives, we are working or doing something else that we don’t necessarily think of as being “fun.” It’s important to get rewarded for your hard work. Get involved in the things that make your husband happy. These activities may change with time, so don’t be surprised if something new becomes his favorite thing to do.
45. What do you want to get out of our life together?
You can talk about short and long-term goals and objectives here. Learn what your husband’s goals and objectives are and give them the attention that they need. When he sees your effort to make his ideal life a reality, it will give him the motivation to prioritize his goals and objectives as well.
Small Gestures
46. Give him your admiration.
Make sure that he knows you admire him and what he does.
47. Let him be an adult.
Do not lecture him like a mother. Allow him to make his own adult decisions.
48. Tell him about a small thing he did that made a big difference.
Telling him this will show him that you pay attention to the small things and you love him for making a positive impact on your life.
49. Tell him how he inspires you.
What gift or talent does he have that you find to be inspiring? Compliment him on it.
50. Tell him why he matters to you.
This will let him know the unique qualities that you see in him.
51. Take an interest in something he likes.
Root for his favorite football team, for example — even if you aren’t particularly interested.
52. Make breakfast in bed.
This will make your husband feel loved as you are respecting his time and helping him get ready in the morning.
53. Offer to do a chore you know he hates.
Taking this chore off of his plate will give him a sense of relief and he will see that you care.
54. Jump on board with his new diet.
If your husband is starting a new diet or workout plan, be supportive and do it right along with him.
55. Send a funny video.
If you know he is having a bad day, send him a funny text or video to cheer him up. This will show him you’re thinking about him.
56. Wake up with the kids.
If you have children and they get up before you do, allow your husband to stay in bed while you take care of them. Allowing him to rest shows him you love him.
57. Pay attention.
Pay attention to your husband’s likes and dislikes to show him that you have a sincere interest in his well being.
58. Include him in your plans.
No, not a lunch out with the girls. But when you think and talk about the future, always make sure that you are talking about what is best for both of you.
59. Spend time with his friends and family.
Show him you love the people that he loves.
60. Step out of your comfort zone for him.
Show your husband that you love him by being willing to be uncomfortable to do something that he wants to do or would benefit him in some way.
61. Tell him you love him.
…and do it often.
62. Compliment him on something that people don’t often acknowledge.
Like his quirky sense of humor that he shares just with you or his quiet way of helping other people.
63. Let him be right.
Even if you think he isn’t, it isn’t a big deal.
64. Ask him for his advice.
Tell him that his opinion means a lot to you.
65. Applaud his efforts.
Acknowledge if he tries to do something difficult, even if he doesn’t reach his goal.
66. Make yourself available.
Turn off your phone, put your work aside, and give him all of your attention when he needs you.
67. Share the minor things.
Share the unimportant things that happened during the day to make your husband feel more involved in your life.
68. Encourage him to be himself.
Let him know that you love him for who he is and that he doesn’t need to change for you.
69. Help him reconnect with old friends.
If he has friends or family members he has not spoken to in a long time, encourage him and help him reconnect with these loved ones.
70. Apologize freely, even if you aren’t wrong.
This may mean simply saying you are sorry that a conversation got out of hand.
Show Love Through Behaviors
71. Share.
Share everything you have and be selfless with your belongings.
72. Pick your battles.
Let go of the unimportant issues that are causing conflict.
73. Express gratitude.
Show him how thankful you are for the nice things that he does for you. Show him you are grateful for the life you share.
74. Never pass judgment.
No one is perfect. Look beyond your husband’s mistakes to focus on his good qualities.
75. Be there for him.
When he needs some support, always be the first person to show up for him.
76. Honor his schedule.
If he has a commitment, don’t make him late or do something to compromise his responsibilities.
77. Don’t place blame.
Use “I” statements when talking to him about issues, such as, “I feel worried when you come home late without calling.” This places less blame than saying, “Why are you always late getting home?”
78. Respect his space.
Both physical and personal space are important.
79. Respect his privacy.
You don’t have to know about his every thought and action to show him you love him. Respect the fact that some things are personal.
80. Talk about your problems.
Address any issues you have with each other as they come up to show him that you want to continuously improve your relationship.
81. Make an effort with your hellos and goodbyes.
Stand up and take the time to give your husband a hug or a kiss, whether he is coming or going. This act of love will always make him feel loved.
82. Give him time.
Men often want to be alone after an argument or need some time to think. Allow him to have the time he needs to himself. This act of love will benefit both of you in the long run.
83. Stand by him.
Defend your husband when other people are speaking negatively about him. Never say disparaging things about him in front of others.
84. Forgive him.
If he does something to upset you, find it in your heart to forgive him.
85. Laugh.
Create a light and fun atmosphere of laughter in your home. Look for ways to enjoy life and laugh with each other. Love and laughter go hand in hand.
86. Protect his dignity.
This means not sharing personal information about him or your marriage with your friends. He trusts you to hold onto his feelings. Even if they seem ridiculous to you, you cannot break that bond.
87. Try to understand his feelings, even if you disagree with him.
Doing this will show him that you are trying to be empathetic. It will also show that you want to understand where he is coming from.
88. Show your husband that you trust him.
Trust your husband to be by himself. Unless your husband has a history of infidelity (or any other betrayal), trust that he will be responsible and make loving decisions when you are not around. Your husband will be more likely to honor your trust if you truly offer it.
89. Admit when you are wrong.
Admit your mistakes to your husband and try to correct them for the future. Your husband will take notice.
90. Let go of the past.
Don’t allow your past “mistakes” from previous relationships into your marriage. Face your issues and then leave them in the past.
91. Avoid making excuses.
While your excuse may be real, excuses sound like a way of refusing responsibility for your words or actions.
92. Be dependable.
Follow through on the things that you say you will do. It is important to the trust established between the two of you that you honor your commitments.
93. Learn about your husband’s love language.
Does he feel your love through acts of service? Or perhaps more when you offer meaningful gifts? Show your husband that you love him by speaking his love language. Read the book, The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts, by Dr. Gary Chapman, to learn more.
94. Gracefully accept criticism from your husband.
Being able to criticize or correct each other in a nice way will help both of you grow and solidify your relationship. Try to avoid defensiveness and blame, and listen to your husband’s concerns with an open mind.
95. Tell the truth.
Telling your husband the truth shows him that you love, trust, and respect him. The truth isn’t always positive, but it is meaningful.
96. Talk about your feelings.
Don’t try to avoid talking about your emotions. Communicate your emotions to your husband and ask him to do the same.
97. Give compliments.
Praise your husband’s talents and achievements. Figure out how your husband thinks he is unique in some way, and do what you can to support those traits.
98. Have clear communication.
Clear communication will let your husband know how much you love him. Share yourself by saying what is on your mind in a way that your partner can hear. Don’t use passive-aggressive or confusing language when being direct is a more respectful approach.
99. Love yourself.
It is important to love yourself and not put yourself down. You won’t be able to show your love for your husband if you are not able to love yourself first. If you are happy and confident, you will be more attractive to him, and he will feel more confident in your relationship.
Understanding your husband’s unique love language can significantly enhance your connection. Take time to ask him questions to discover if he cherishes compliments, adores quality time, or feels loved through acts of service.
Perhaps he values receiving gifts or thrives on physical touch. Recognizing how he perceives love will allow you to cater to his emotional needs more effectively.
If words of affirmation are his thing, remind him often of his worth. By loving him in his unique way, you honor his individuality, creating a stronger, more fulfilling relationship. Remember, it’s not just about loving him but about loving him in the ways that he feels it most profoundly.
Final Thoughts
Taking care of your marriage is like tending a prized garden. You have to pull the weeds, water it daily, and enjoy the fruits of your efforts.
Making the extra effort to show your husband that you love him will keep the spark alive in your marriage and ensure that the inevitable challenges of married life don’t undermine the love you have for one another.
