A few years back, I found myself in a rut with goal-setting. I had all these grand ambitions, but making actual progress always felt like an uphill battle. I’d set huge goals like “become a famous entrepreneur” or “get shredded,” but within months, my motivation would fizzle and I’d be back where I started. Even…
In any relationship, it’s natural to encounter challenges and conflicts. But what happens when those conflicts turn toxic? Gaslighting and stonewalling are not the same thing, but both can wreak havoc on a relationship. It’s crucial to understand the difference between these two behaviors so that you can decide how to react when or if…
In our fast-paced, modern world, time is our most precious commodity. We’re constantly juggling responsibilities, chasing dreams, and trying to make the most of every moment. But have you ever felt like your days are slipping away, consumed by activities that don’t truly enrich your life? It’s a common struggle, and the culprit is often…
We are so sad to announce that Sue Johnson has died at the age of 76 from cancer. She was a close friend of ours and a valued colleague. We loved her enormously. She gave us profound insights into how to create connection and safety in close relationships. Sue used attachment theory to brilliantly illuminate…
I lay in my husband’s arms, a small spoon nestled within his big. His arm is draped around me and his large palm rests over my heart. I sigh with contentment. The worries of the day seep into my pillow and tight muscles soften as my heartbeat slows down. This is the tantalizing, healing power…
No matter the nature of your relationship, setting boundaries is a critical component to maintaining a healthy connection with your partner. Seeking a close partnership should not have to conflict with your needs. Becoming one as a couple means holistically knowing yourself, understanding your personal and emotional needs, and being able to communicate them to…
In the 1970’s and 1980’s, two pioneers in marital research were quietly gathering data on how to create happy lasting relationships. Dr. John Gottman’s and Dr. Susan Johnson’s research was initially known mostly among academic circles because therapists were still afraid of doing couples therapy. Gottman’s and Johnson’s research brought an unprecedented empirical foundation to…
You and your husband are going through a whole new level of bumpy. Whatever’s going on between you, though, one of the best ways to deal with it is to write it out. Put your thoughts and feelings into words. Journaling is one way to do this. But writing a letter to your husband, who…
Is your guy sending signals that he might not be straight? Plenty of women have found themselves dating a guy only to discover he’s more interested in other men. But how can you tell for sure? Unless you ask him directly, there’s no surefire way to know if your man is gay or bi (and…
If you want an exceptional love relationship – even though you’ve been together for years ordecades? You’ve got to learn to date your mate again. Oxford dictionary defines a date as a social or romantic appointment or engagement. Andwhen you were first dating your partner, you did a great job. Remember? You used to planahead,…
