If you want to be in the driver’s seat when dating, you’ve got to find a way to make a man chase you, not the other way around.
But if you’re a high-value woman looking for a high-value man, you can bet he’ll see right through any games.
So the question is, how do you make him pursue you authentically?
Here are three steps to make him chase you and leave you feeling more confident in your love life.
- Keep talking to other guys until you’re exclusive
Before I became a dating coach and learned all of the strategies I share with you ladies, I made many mistakes.
When I met a woman I liked, I would zone in on her with tunnel vision and give her my undivided attention all day, every day.
The problem with this was that I was investing way too much too soon; unsurprisingly, this was a total turn-off.
So what I want you to do is to continue to meet and date other guys until you’ve had the DTR (defined the relationship).
Because until you’ve had this conversation, you are still single. It doesn’t matter if you really like this guy, don’t give him too much of yourself until you’re exclusive.
- Make social plans that don’t include him
Whether you’re single or not, make plans that don’t include this guy.
During the pandemic, Jessica and I were forced to spend all our time together like every other couple in the world. And naturally, it became harder to maintain that spark. We had nothing to talk about because we were side by side every minute of every day!
When you live a full, independent life outside of your relationship, you maintain a strong sense of self, and you have much more to discuss and share with the guy you’re dating.
So get out there and meet new people, try new hobbies, travel, and be so busy living an awesome life that it doesn’t matter if this guy pursues you or not.
As I always say, no man wants a life with you unless you have an incredible life without him!
- Have a POD day
A POD day is a phone-off day.
We’re all guilty of being glued to our phones. But when you’re dating, having your phone on you at all times makes you seem super accessible and responsive. In other words, it makes you seem like you don’t have a life.
Don’t be the woman who responds as soon as a man texts or calls.
Switch your phone off or on airplane mode for one day a week, so you’re not even tempted to check your messages.
This will work wonders for all areas of your life and make men chase you more. They’ll be left wondering what you’re doing and who you’re with, and this is a good thing.
Let him come to you, and remember that space is your friend.
If he doesn’t start chasing you, that’s okay. Someone else will.
Time to say, “NEXT!”