You met an awesome guy, and you’re really excited about this one. So, how can you make sure you don’t mess things up and scare him off before things have even gotten started?
Here are five behaviors that scare high-quality men off in a heartbeat. You cannot afford to get these wrong if you want to score yourself an amazing man and a healthy, long-lasting relationship.
1. When you spend all of your time with him
I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again: no man wants a life with you unless you have an incredible life without him!
So make sure you’re making plans with your friends, meeting new people, and filling your evenings and weekends with fun, interesting activities that don’t revolve around him.
Spending all of your time with someone too soon screams, “I don’t have a life!”
2. Pushing for commitment way too early
I get that it’s hard to be patient when you’re crushing hard on an amazing guy you just met. But hit the brakes before you get carried away too soon.
You have to give yourself time to really get to know a man before you commit yourself to him, and vice versa. This is what I call Little Love Step #5 – whatever you do, don’t skip this step!
3. Unreasonable jealousy
If you go to a party and the guy you’re with spends all his time with some other woman in a dark, cozy corner, you’re 100% right to be jealous. That behavior is not acceptable. Time to say, “NEXT!”
But let’s say he has a female friend at work who he sometimes grabs lunch with. Alarm bells immediately go off in your head when he tells you he went to get tacos with this woman yesterday, and you start screaming at him in the middle of the street and calling him a cheater.
That’s bordering on, do I need to call the cops on this woman, possessive, jealous, rage kind of territory. And that’s unreasonable.
4. Being an instant texter
Are you the kind of woman who replies to every text you receive as soon as your phone buzzes? Is your hand practically glued to your phone 24/7?
Yeah, if you’re nodding your head, put your phone down and go get busy in the real world!
Nobody needs to spend that much time on their phone. And replying too quickly to a guy you just started seeing tells him that you’ve got nothing better going on than to wait around for him to call. You’re better than that sexy, single lady!
5. Constantly gossiping about other people
Look, sometimes you just need to vent, and I get it. But spending all your time talking negatively about other people will put you and the person you’re with in a negative headspace. It’s super unattractive. And dates are meant to be light and fun!
Plus, he’s bound to start wondering what you’re saying about him behind his back…
Avoid these five unattractive behaviors when you’re out there meeting new guys, and you’ll give this man enough time and space to miss you, and yourself enough time to figure out if this is the man you truly want to build a life with.