When I say “feminine energy,” what’s the first thing that comes to mind?
A real-life barbie who is practically helpless, dumbs herself down, or uses her looks to attract men?
Like many of our clients, you might be an alpha female who associates negative qualities with feminine energy. You’re used to leaning heavily into your masculine at work, and in this environment, it works. You can lead projects and people, climb the career ladder, and get sh*t done.
The problem is that you don’t even know that you carry this masculine energy on your dates. When you show up and try and take charge, you unknowingly push the guy into his feminine. And this kills the possibility of any tension or attraction building between you.
When you lean into your feminine on a date, the man can lean into his masculine. You’ll instantly be more attracted to him (and him to you) and set yourself up to build a real connection.
And FYI, feminine energy is not weak. It is powerful.
So here are five ways to radiate feminine energy on your next date.
Know what feminine energy is
Feminine energy is:
Empathy
Nurturing
Fluidity
Softness
Receptivity
Openness
Creativity
Compassion
Supportive
Intuitive
Think about a woman who embodies feminine energy to you. Start to become more aware of your energy at different points in the day, for example, when you’re with friends or your kids, when you’re at work, when you’re out shopping for groceries, when you’re practicing yoga, etc.
Create a pre-date ritual
A go-to ritual before a date helps you ground, center, and connect to your feminine energy.
One of the best ways to do this is to connect to your five senses. Listen to a song you love, light a scented candle, spritz on your favorite perfume, or wear some lingerie that makes you feel amazing.
Doing this before a date helps you be more present and receptive when you get there and more open to a meaningful connection.
Just let him take the lead
If you show up and try to take charge of the date, two sets of masculine energy will be at play, which means you will constantly be competing with each other. Chemistry and attraction will not thrive in this environment.
When masculine energy meets feminine energy, they complement each other, and this builds attraction and sexual tension.
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So, lean back next time you’re on a date and let him take the lead. If you’re looking for a more masculine guy, this will instantly make you more attracted to him.
And don’t think that leaning back means being passive or submissive. From here, you will be judging him every step of the way to see if he meets your love vision (Little Love Step #2)
Don’t show off, show up
When you’re on a date with a high-value man, you might feel the need to impress him with your resume and accomplishments to demonstrate that you are a high-value woman. But remember, this is not a job interview!
Just share who you are, your passions, your dreams, and your personality. Don’t give him everything all at once. Let him find out about you gradually, and keep him wanting more.
Remember to ask him questions so you can learn about him, too.
End the date early
The final way to lean into your feminine energy on a date is to end it early. A first date should be no longer than 90 minutes. This gives you enough time to see if you want a second date and also allows you to end the date on a high where you’re both super excited to see each other again. Schedule plans after so that you have somewhere you have to be.
Tell him you had a great time (if you did), then leave it to him to ask you out again and plan the next date.
