Introvert? These 3 Tips Will Change The Way You Approach Socializing

December 20, 2022

There are various ways to define and experience being an introvert. Whether your personality leans more in the direction of “shy” or you’re quite outgoing but feel drained after socializing (especially in larger groups), this time of year can feel overwhelming even before it starts. From the pressure to show up for holiday gatherings to the expectations of family, it’s easy to lose your sense of self and feel as if you’re starting the new year depleted and unbalanced.

Never fear, like that awkward elf on a shelf arriving against all odds every morning, your friendly neighborhood introvert (and meditation expert) is here with my three best practices for thriving—not just surviving—during the holidays!

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Have a “Ghost of Holidays Past” moment and take a moment for reflection.

What are the holiday moments that you look back on with the fondest memories? Who in your life feels like your favorite adaptogen herb? (You know, that person that always seems to know when your nervous system needs a little boost or to decompress!) What brand of “holiday cheer” has your body really appreciated in the past?

Reflect on these questions and anything else that stirs up happy memories for you. Based on your answers, create a mindful game plan to set yourself up for success ahead of this holiday. This way, you’ll be less reactive to inevitable plot twists, and more likely to respond from a place of connection.

The end of the year is rife with temptations to give in to what other people want from you. (Shoutout to all my people pleasers). It is very possible to be loving and generous with your time while also honoring what you are craving as you bring this year to a close.

This year, set healthy boundaries as an act of self-love. I recommend reverse engineering this by reflecting on how you want to feel at the end of the month and then asking yourself, “What does that desired future version of me require of the present-moment me?” Make a list and then create the boundaries that you are going to mindfully assert in your life.

Here’s what this looks like in action: In the past when I’ve felt overwhelmed with proposed social commitments, I’ve adopted this response: “Thank you so much for thinking to include me. I have a lot on my plate and won’t be able to fully commit until (insert a date closer to the event when you’ll have a better gauge on your feelings). Let me know if that works for you, and know that I completely understand if it doesn’t because you need a hard commitment earlier for planning purposes.”

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