Marriage can be a beautiful thing. But anyone who is in a long-lasting, committed, loving marriage will also tell you that marriage is hard work. Couples in those relationships devote their time and energy to making it work, and they’re both all-in on their marriage.
This brings me on to the flip side: marriage can also be a total disaster.
Have you ever had a friend tell you they were getting married, and you knew deep down that it was the wrong move for them? That they were about to make the BIGGEST mistake.
And maybe you told them, and they liked you a little less because you did.
Or you kept quiet because you wanted to be happy for them. But day by day, you watched EVERYTHING fall apart.
What I don’t get is how so many people treat marriage so flippantly.
Some couples can’t stop fighting with each other but think getting married will fix their problems.
Some couples have both been unfaithful but think getting married will stop them from wanting to cheat again.
There are couples who barely even know each other, get hammered one weekend in Vegas, and think getting married is a fun, sexy, wild thing to do.
Here’s the deal: marriage will not fix any problems in a relationship. Marriage will magnify the problems you already have and make them a million times worse.
So if you’re considering marrying a guy any time soon, this is my plea to you: be very intentional about it.
And don’t even think about marrying a man who has any of these 7 habits.
When you’re with the right person, marriage can be wonderful, but still REALLY hard.
He’ll forget to pick a carton of milk up for you in the store for what feels like the gazillionth time, and you’ll FLIP YOUR LID and wonder why you ever married the guy.
“IT’S NOT ABOUT THE MILK ADAM; IT’S ABOUT WHAT THE MILK REPRESENTS!”
Seriously though, don’t rush into it. Forget about trying to check those boxes or hit some self-imposed deadline. Take your time. Get to know this man really well.
Because a diamond ring on your finger will mean NOTHING when you’re in a marriage that makes you miserable.
Have you ever been in a relationship with a man that had any of these toxic habits?
How did it go? Leave me a comment below.
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