A life lesson
Consider a current scenario, or as far back as you can recall, in which you encountered rejection. Try to identify the emotions you felt at the time. Which emotion did you feel: fear, humiliation, embarrassment, sadness, or anger? I understand that reliving these emotions may be tough, as rejection can strike at the very center of our being. However, I’d like you to use your emotions to your advantage going forward. What if the rejection was a cover for your defense against something more serious down the road?
When we are rejected, we believe it is our fault, which has a negative effect on our self-esteem. Naturally, our deservingness is called into doubt. However, we are thinking incorrectly because something may be occurring behind the scenes. Every aspect of life has a purpose. Occasionally, relationships end because each person has learned the necessary lessons. I am aware that the wounds inflicted are painful, even more so when one party has been deceptive. Putting aside the reasons behind the separation, we should concentrate on rebuilding our lives.
Looking back
In retrospect, for instance, how did you overcome rejection? When you reflect on that time period, can you now see why events transpired as they did? I’m not familiar with your circumstances, but I’m betting you were shielded from something later on. In the midst of sadness and pain, it may look as though your anguish will never end. We may cry ourselves to sleep, unable to comprehend how we could have been a better partner. However, here’s the thing given our level of awareness at the time, we were doing the best we could. As you develop, you attract more favorable circumstances, which is why self-improvement is a never-ending path.
People frequently lament that life is a series of disappointments with no resolution. Oftentimes, the degree of your struggles is determined by your level of growth. Life is not personal; it is simply carrying out its function and responding to our current state of consciousness. For instance, the person you were during your adolescence is not the person you are as an adult. As a result, you will encounter varied degrees of lessons that will aid in your evolution.
Your Rejection May Have Been Your Protection
Our lessons are frequently veiled in sorrow, heartache, and suffering, as this is how life enthralls our attention. We develop via adversity and hardship, not in our zone of comfort. Consider how this applies to your own life. When everything is going wonderful, how frequently are you likely to venture outside your comfort zone? That is, we sail along until the agony becomes intolerable. Rejection is life’s way of yanking the rug out from beneath us and shielding us from anything potentially destructive. Similarly, it may signify the conclusion of a life lesson.
Are you able to relate to this? Are you coming to understand that there was nothing you could have done to avoid rejection? It was irrelevant whether you did or did not do anything. It was about allowing your personal progress to take its natural course. We do not need to beat ourselves up over the fact that we could have done more to maintain the relationship. Indeed, people frequently remain Parked (fixed, immobile, and unable to move on) in their relationships, despite their misery and unhappiness. However, it is easier for them to remain in the relationship than to disrupt it and move on with their life.
Doing the right thing
When life intervenes, the universe says, “Hey, I know you’re not going to do something about this, so I’m stepping in to dissolve the relationship.” Life is similar to a parent sending you to your room because they know you won’t sleep unless they intervene. Naturally, you raise a ruckus because you wanted to stay up late and watch television. However, as you age, you quickly realize that they were doing what was best for you. That is sometimes how we feel when we are rejected. Life intervenes because she is aware of what is best for us and what is coming in the future. I’ve spoken with numerous people who view rejection as a blessing in disguise over the years. Not long afterwards, some met the love of their lives .
We must trust that life (a.k.a. our Higher Power) is doing the right thing, even if it does not appear so because rejection is unpleasant. I’m not requesting that you like it, but rather that you embrace the lesson it’s attempting to teach you. I’m urging you to consider the possibility that your rejection serves as a safeguard against anything in your future. Maintain a notebook outlining the lessons you’ve learned as a result of your rejection? For instance, have you developed a greater sense of self-worth and respect? Have you developed the ability to set boundaries for what you will accept or reject? While rejection is a painful teacher, the wiser Guardian knows what is best for us far in advance.
