The ability to accept yourself can be one of the most difficult obstacles to overcome when beginning a new relationship during or after being quarantined, or even when you are several years into an existing one. It is not enough to simply tolerate the person who appears in the mirror every day; it is necessary to love that person. Confident individuals may offer very straightforward and simple advice in the form of the phrase “love you just the way you are.” However, saying it is not the same as doing it in practice. If you do not take the time to address the real issues at hand, it will have a detrimental effect on your relationships.
The difficulty in providing advice to you is that it is difficult to determine what the primary problem is. As an alternative, it may be more convenient to focus on a few common issues that affect both men and women and cause them to lose confidence in their own skin. Prior abusive relationships, troubled emotional upbringings, children of divorce, and pressures from the world around you to change who you are. These are the most common catalysts for low self esteem, according to research. Come with me as I go through each of these issues, one by one, and see if we can’t get you started on the path to loving yourself.
Abuse and relationship breakdown
Abusive relationships can be draining, and the ramifications of them can last for years after they end. There are many men who are also impacted by emotionally and physically abusive relationships, so this is not solely a female issue to be concerned about. The fact that you were a victim of abuse means that you will bring a significant amount of baggage into any future relationships you enter. You must realize that not everyone is the same, and that you can find a man or woman who will treat you with the dignity and respect that you deserve in a relationship with them.
When it comes to abuse, there are many different types, and your parents may have had a significant impact on your self-esteem as a child and into your adulthood. In the absence of positive reinforcement and encouraging remarks about your positive characteristics and appearance, you may come to believe that you do not deserve to hear them.
You are valuable
Indeed, you were deserving of hearing it, and you should be aware that you are valuable enough to merit the attention of someone who is willing to invest time in you right now. Even if you were raised in a divided household or have gone through a difficult separation and divorce of your own, it can be difficult to navigate the waters of a relationship breakdown. It is common for divorced parents’ children to have little understanding of how a healthy relationship functions, let alone what to look for when looking for a compatible mate in the first place.
You can reach a low point by surrounding yourself with negative people and people who are only concerned with themselves. magazines, television, and movies promote a specific image of what women and men should look like, and they do so universally. While it is unfortunate that you are allowing magazines and the silver screen to dictate your self worth, there are two additional factors to consider. Those celebrities are all just like you; the only difference is that they have a team of people whose sole responsibility it is to ensure that they look their finest before every photo or filming session. What if you don’t have a staff of a dozen stylists on hand? Yeah sure, the majority of people do not.
False positives
Consider the fact that the magazines that are to blame for your low self-esteem aren’t interested in all of the different types and shapes of beautiful people, nor are they interested in the inner beauty of those who are magnificent. Every situation is not as straightforward as it appears, and you should avoid making any changes to yourself that you or your partner do not believe should be made. Overall, learning to love oneself is a process that takes time and effort. You should begin with something you are proud of that is positive about yourself. It is critical to unconditionally love that aspect of yourself, whether it is your sense of humor or even your shoulders, in order to achieve happiness. This is a critical first step in the process. Consider another aspect of your physical appearance or of your personality that you find appealing. In response to your efforts, you should notice that you are becoming less sensitive to the harsh criticism you have of yourself, and that you are even beginning to accept yourself for who you are as a result of them.
