Why You Should Reflect On Relationships This Week & 3 Questions To Help

It is my experience that the Universe is always handing us lessons we can use to up-level our lives. These lessons are meant to help us—not to pummel us, although it can feel that way.

This week, I like to think of the dialogue between us and the Universe going something like this: The Universe asks, “Why are you mad at me? You just told me you want to have more fulfilling relationships! So I’m bringing in the energy to clear out the beliefs you are holding that are preventing that!” And meanwhile, we respond, “I know I said that, but I wanted it to be pretty! Less thriller and more rom-com! And also less…difficult. It’s a lot, Uni.”

The energy of this week is in some ways a continuation of last week’s. Over the next few days, the good ol’ Uni could swoop in with some challenges that help us assess what’s working for us and what isn’t. More specifically, this week will be very centered on relationships.

With Venus in retrograde going strong (if you can strongly retrograde, and well, she does), we’ll be called to reassess old patterns in relationships that have not served us this week.

I’m finding that blame and responsibility, in particular, will be key themes. They seem to make up a collective pattern that is coming up to be healed. When we are stuck in blaming ourselves or blaming other people, we can’t grow. We can’t move past the issue. There is a need for less all-or-nothing thinking. The solution? Take a breath and look underneath the blame to find the feelings that are fueling it. When we get clear on our emotional needs, we can get to the core of the issue.

Let’s say you’re having a hard time making friends and you have a nagging feeling it’s because you are just not likable. That’s a covert way of blaming yourself. Instead of continuing with the blame game, tune into that feeling of being unlikable and consider what it’s telling you. In my experience, that feeling is often your inner child talking! Perhaps it’s asking to be seen and comforted and reassured that it’s not their fault Janie from work never texted you back. After you soothe this inner voice, you’ll be able to get clear on why friendship is so important to you, what kind of friendship you’re searching for, and maybe even how and where you can find it.

Or maybe you can’t let go of your ex and you keep ruminating on how awful they were to you. Tune into the part of you that’s pissed or hurt and journal about it. Feel those feelings and reflect on what you wrote from the perspective of a close friend. Rather than focusing on what the ex did, release some of that pain and let yourself feel seen. As an inner child healing teacher, I have seen so much transformation come from the simple process of reparenting by listening to ourselves with compassion.

When you do this, you’re unplugging from the blame dynamic and valuing yourself.

Take a breath and put your hand on your heart. Imagine that a person or work situation that is heavy on your mind is a big bubble above your head. Visualize a cord going from your crown chakra at the top of your head, plugging into the energy of this situation. Unplug the cord and watch the bubble dissipate.

Then, imagine a big, bright sun replacing it. Plug the cord into this life force and feel, sense, or see the light coming down the cord, filling you up.