Pride, Partnership, and the Need for Emotional Refuge

When Gottman therapists assess relationship health, we are looking for three things above all else: the presence of trust, the presence of commitment, and the absence of contempt. Most articles you’ll read will help you focus on how to strengthen your relationship by focusing your energy on working on these three pillars: especially contempt since…

The Good and Bad of Resilience

Given enough years, the unlikely tends to happen. A serious illness arrives. A parent slips into decline. A career bends in a direction nobody predicted. Most relationships meet at least one of these, and many meet several. The capacity to keep moving through them, and to stay turned toward each other while doing so, is…