The Art of Acceptance can mean many things to different people. In the general sense of the word, acceptance means taking something that is being offered. Acceptance in the context of a relationship typically means that you have been admitted into a group, thus being deemed adequate or suitable. When two people meet, what would you say is the first thing that draws them to one another? If you guessed physical attraction you would be correct. More often than not, this is the biggest indicator of initial acceptance. Humans and animals are similar in this. Acceptance Is The Language of Love.
Choosing A Mate
We see it countless times when “choosing a mate.” Subconsciously or not, we are drawn to certain characteristics right from the start. So what makes someone accept that invitation to dinner or accept the proposal of marriage? Conversely, what makes someone accept that things may not be as great as they once seemed? Or worse, accept or “settle” for something sub-par in their lives? When I was in college there were a ton of people that were all thrown into situations they were unfamiliar with, myself included.
A Distorted Language
People had come from different backgrounds and all types of lifestyles, with any number of things that had shaped their lives up to that point. One of my friends, who we will call “E-rock”, had had a difficult upbringing. E-rock was born with a cleft lip and had overcome obstacles to get into college. He had let this “physical imperfection”, as he called it, define who he was. And he had accepted the fact that this was who he was and that was that. He actually had quite a negative outlook on his life and more importantly, on himself. Therefore the Language of Love in his life was somewhat distorted.
We got to be great friends and over the years he has learned to accept himself for who he is and what he has to offer people. He is now in a stable, steady relationship with someone who accepts his faults, flaws and all. Regardless of what your situation may be, the art of acceptance is common throughout every relationship we have. Acceptance has always been a fear for many of us. Fear that we won’t be accepted into the school we want, the job we applied for, even the relationship that we are in.
A Correct Perception
Why are we so afraid? What are we so afraid of? We all have things that we bring to the table. I don’t know about you guys, but I want to be fully seen for who I am and embraced for those characteristics, good and bad. I don’t want to feel like I have to be somebody that I’m not in order to fit in. Acceptance means being true to yourself and loving yourself first. You don’t have to answer to anyone other than yourself. You only have one life to live! Accept the person that is looking back at you in the mirror, and don’t let anyone tell you how to live it. And allow that perception to be the Language of Love In Your Life.