All couples have conflict. In fact, healthy individuals use their disagreements to learn more about each other. That said, there is a tipping point where bickering and criticism can take over and sink your relationship. So, how do you know how much is too much? Watch this video of Dr. John Gottman explaining the ratio…
Boundaries are important for the health of your relationships. But for so long, women have been taught saying no, setting limits, or declining a request is impolite or even mean. They fear that their relationships will suffer if they do not make everyone around them happy or at least try. Yet, I have gained more…
National Domestic Violence Hotline This article is not intended to address situations of abuse. If you’re in an abusive relationship, you are not alone. Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1−800−799−7233 or TTY 1−800−787−3224. You can also visit the website. Sam and Jack (not their real names), both in their late forties and married for…
This article originally was published by the Child Mind Institute Most young children are aware of death, even if they don’t understand it. Death is a common theme in cartoons and television, and some of your child’s friends may have already lost a loved one. But experiencing grief firsthand is a different and often confusing process…
Maybe your attraction to women came as a surprise to you. You might have suddenly started having feelings for a friend. Perhaps a woman expressed attraction to you, and you were surprised to find yourself feeling open. Or maybe you’ve known about your feelings for a long time, but there were inner or outer barriers…
Being Certified Gottman Therapists (and a gay couple) who specialize in gay couples therapy, we want to highlight just how important it is that the LGBTQ community and its allies come together and stand proud in celebration this June. Alapaki Yee and Salvatore Garanzini Among the many reasons Pride matters, we believe one of the…
As many people in LGBTQIA+ relationships know, it can be really hard when you have unsupportive families. Discrimination is hard when it’s coming from anyone but there is a specific source of pain when it comes from family. Familial relationships can be complicated. You may love each other deeply but disagree on many things. It…
Alexandra and James* James is awake staring at the ceiling, feeling lonely and confused. Alexandra is beside him, facing away, sleeping soundly. He keeps replaying the evening over and over again in his mind. When did things go wrong? They went out for a romantic dinner with the intent of coming home and being intimate.…
Parenting is like a box of chocolates. You never know what kind of human you will be raising. Raising a transgender teen is nothing I ever imagined would show up in my box! For the first thirteen years of my child’s life, they identified as a cis female. My teen was a girly girl leading…
Neurodiverse romantic relationships include at least one or more neurodivergent partners. Neurodiversity refers to the variation in neurological differences that occur naturally in all humans, with 15-20% of people falling in the category of neurodivergent. The term neurodivergence is most commonly used with Autism and ADHD, but it also applies to people with Dyslexia, Sensory…
