The line between love and hate, passion, and pain (especially if you have experienced trauma)can feel as thin as a sliver. The reasons for this are complex, but what is essential to know is thatwhen researchers put two strangers on a perilous, swinging bridge together, the strangers aremore likely to be attracted to one another…
Mothers give birth not just to a child, but to a family. You have been a shining example of this, Bjørg. As you approach 90 with white hair, your hands trembling more than they used to when grasping your coffee cup, the fear of losing you intensifies with each visit and conversation. I look back…
Does your effort to support your partner spiral into arguments? Maybe you can relate to Elena and Tom below. Elena: (Sighs) Today was… overwhelming. It felt like everything that could go wrong,did. Tom: At least it’s over now, right? I’m sure it’ll be better tomorrow. Elena: (Feeling misunderstood). It’s not just about having a bad…
Parenting fatigue, also known as parental burnout is a mental health issue many parentsexperience. To define it simply; parenting fatigue is when the responsibilities of parenting addup and create excess stress that causes mental and physical health symptoms. This in turnmakes it hard to continue the role of parenting. It can be a downward cycle…
We all have big dreams and ambitious goals we’d love to accomplish, like getting that major promotion while still having quality family time, getting fit and healthy despite a crazy busy schedule, or saving up enough to retire early and pursue our passions. The problem is that these huge, life-changing objectives can feel so daunting…
Have you ever felt totally uninspired by those vague corporate mission statements? The ones that say things like “To be the world’s most trusted provider of integrated solutions”? Or by those vague New Year’s resolutions? The ones that say things like “Get in shape” or “Be a better person”? Blah blah blah. What does that…
A few years back, I found myself in a rut with goal-setting. I had all these grand ambitions, but making actual progress always felt like an uphill battle. I’d set huge goals like “become a famous entrepreneur” or “get shredded,” but within months, my motivation would fizzle and I’d be back where I started. Even…
In any relationship, it’s natural to encounter challenges and conflicts. But what happens when those conflicts turn toxic? Gaslighting and stonewalling are not the same thing, but both can wreak havoc on a relationship. It’s crucial to understand the difference between these two behaviors so that you can decide how to react when or if…
In our fast-paced, modern world, time is our most precious commodity. We’re constantly juggling responsibilities, chasing dreams, and trying to make the most of every moment. But have you ever felt like your days are slipping away, consumed by activities that don’t truly enrich your life? It’s a common struggle, and the culprit is often…
We are so sad to announce that Sue Johnson has died at the age of 76 from cancer. She was a close friend of ours and a valued colleague. We loved her enormously. She gave us profound insights into how to create connection and safety in close relationships. Sue used attachment theory to brilliantly illuminate…
