What Is Reactive Abuse…And Can It Be Prevented?

You’ve seen the headlines and plot lines for every courtroom drama and true crime podcast: “Wife Finally Snaps!” “Husband Loses Control!” “Honeymoon Ends Early with Attempted Murder.” The story is usually told the same way. It focuses on the moment of the violence—because that’s what captures attention. Like slowing down to look at a traffic…

Pride, Partnership, and the Need for Emotional Refuge

When Gottman therapists assess relationship health, we are looking for three things above all else: the presence of trust, the presence of commitment, and the absence of contempt. Most articles you’ll read will help you focus on how to strengthen your relationship by focusing your energy on working on these three pillars: especially contempt since…